The Child Deserves a Beating, Really?

How many times has your youngster said, “I want this!” or “I need that!” immediately after you have done something great for them? You make a plan to take your kid out for a nice lunch. You get there and buy the kid their lunch and all she can do is demand candy! Argh! It aggravating point where you don’t actually want to hear it anymore. Positive moms and dads will at some point resent their youngsters. They will just think to themselves, “When is it my turn?” or “When is my kid going to just say thank you?” I have actually also seen moms and dads inform their kid, “I do not care what you want!” Now, whenyou see it in print, exactly how does that statement feel to you? Does it feel positive or mean?

Dismissing a kid’s request or telling them, “I don’t care” will bring about an instantaneous parent-child power struggle! Picture what it would feel like to talk to someone about something that is actually essential to you and the one you truly like or rely on simply just disregards you. It wouldn’t feel great, would it? The more often the child feels unloved, the more distressed he or she is truly going to be and the more power struggles the parents will certainly see with their kid or teenager.

The video clip attached here is just a re-enactment, but it portrays the mascot of the bistro screaming at the child to make her to shut up. This makes no real sense, does it? Several of the discussions on YouTube are “The youngster should get a beating!” and “I always minded my mom or dad because I was scared of what they would do.” If you grow up with fear, does it make any sense that you will live your entire adulthood in worry? So, exactly what is the right answer?

It is very important to validate the youngster’s desire as opposed to simply ignoring her or him. This makes good sense for any sort of stage, including terrible twos, older child temper tantrums, as well as teenage rebellion. Simply the reality that you are validating what they are discussing, in a lot of conditions, will immediately prevent the dreaded parent-child power battle entirely!

This is the time to keep an open mind! Next time your child is informing you of something that is obviously important to them, tell the youngster, “I hear that you wish for candy. I would certainly like for you to have some candy. Can you describe to me three things you could do that could exhibit excellent behavior in the bistro?” When the child answers with the correct answers, “Be silent, sit still and be kind,” and she will, then applaud her for being so clever and promise her that when she shows you silent, cooperative and kind behavior in the restaurant, she can have her treats. Makes good sense, yes? Makes for good parenting, yes?

The Kids Don’t Even Hear Me Yelling at Them Anymore! What Would Happen if I Praised Them Instead?

By Thomas Liotta and Bonnie Liotta

Ways to Utilize Appreciation to Gain Cooperation from Your Kid!

When my children were young, it seemed like I could probably always halt their behavior with simply a frown. Maybe it took a single raised finger, or the counting of one, two, three. (I never got to three!) The more I ordered them, the more they paid attention. Then, overnight, something took place. I have any idea what. They quit “playing orders.” Now, the more loudly I order them, the less they respond. What happened?

They reached the age where “playing orders” doesn’t work. The great news is that the right questions do work!

It typically takes place that your young child acts up whether it is at the local mall, at school, in church, on a getaway or at your house. They are loud and, naturally, it may be humiliating. Your kid is very smart, and when they do well and are not acknowledged for it, they will act out to get attention from you.

It is as simple as that.

A. They do not see what you see.

An instance of this could possibly be when a great parent is on the telephone or super busy preparing supper and their kid or pre-teen comes up to them and displays a picture he/she just now drew and the mom or dad spits out, “Hang on, I’m busy. Honestly, can’t you see I’m on the phone?”

B. Realise that they want your attention, good or bad.

First of all, the child does not understand that Mommy is on the phone or why she is talking to them like that. All of a sudden the child is feeling as if they have done something wrong when, naturally, they have not. The child is seeking some appreciation. They are deciding to please their parent, constantly, however when their great actions go totally unnoticed by the mom and/or dad, the kid will commonly act out searching for some type of attention. This is when the kid will draw images on the walls, drop a coffee cup or pitch a bad temper tantrum.

C. Lavish them with praise!

Make it your purpose today, Mom or Dad, to insert effective, favorable kudos into your daily routine!

Anytime you see your young child doing something that you like, praise them. Find a way to ask them a good question they can give you the right response for, like: “Little Timmy, do your toys belong on the floor, on the sofa or in the toy box?” “In the toy box, Mommy.” “Oh, look at you, you are soooo smart! You always understand the right response! When would be a great time to make certain that the toys are in the toy box, now or in five minutes from now?” “In five minutes.” “Okay, so you are going to tidy up your toys in five minutes. When the hand on the clock reaches up here, then you will clean up the toys?” “Yes.” “Perfect, you are so remarkable, little Timmy!”

Your kid chooses to show you what they can do, exactly how wise they are, and how they desire you to be proud of them. When you could find any reason to lavish your child with the positive appreciation of hugs and kisses, concentrating on what you would choose for them to do, your kid will have an instantly higher level of self-esteem, self-confidence and happiness!

D. Ensure that the praise is real, is communicated clearly, and that it is understood.

With a slightly older child, you can modify the positive questions to appeal to their creativity and knowledge, can’t you?

Thomas Liotta brings over 15,000 hours of in-the-trenches training with 2,000+ children. He saw a 100% success rate with every child in self-control, responsibility and self-discipline. You can too. Get your FREE gift! The first 2 chapters of our new positive parenting book, A Simple Way to Guide Children and Teenagers to Happiness, Success and Gratitude.

There’s No Solution for All the Kids’ Tears, Frustration and Yelling Every Morning?

Your Solution for Tears, Frustration and Yelling in the Morning!

I can still recall when my early mornings were chaotic, demanding and oppositional. There was absolutely hollering and at times tears along with everyone antagonizing each other while working toward their own individual plan. This looks like having several different road maps for the very same trip! Exactly how ridiculous does that sound?

When everyone would eventually leave your house, it resembled the finale of Titanic, when the ship finally sank and all you can listen to was an eerie quiet. Well, for a few seconds anyways till you realize you have your home to your own self however you are required to devote the initial hours cleaning up your home. Urgh! It’s time to turn those tables around!

My spouse Thomas Liotta taught me to develop the proper environment where I could possibly constantly be the hero and at the very same time provide the youngsters an opportunity to be acknowledged. Here is exactly how it goes!

First, we produced the correct home atmosphere where everyone understands everybody else’s expectations and we place that in writing. Then, we figured out the benefit for our children extremely promptly by listening to exactly what they request. “Mom or Tom, can we hear our favorite music?” Likewise, we set the basic stage that a ride to their school is a privilege, which it is, and the alternative is to take the bus, walk or pay for a taxi. The car leaves at exactly 8:05 and if they desire to listen to songs while going to school, they will certainly have finished all chores and be already sitting in the automobile ready to go by 8:00.

There is a reward system for everyone who willingly completes their chores, without being nagged during every segment of the day, each day. Everything is now in writing. These rewards feature television time, computer online time, good friends coming over, home cooked fresh cookies, and so forth. You would be amazed at the quantity of effort a kid will certainly put in to deserve a home baked cookie! This benefit system is all tied together with their very own individual self-constraint, responsibility and self-discipline along with the benefits being awarded for the week every Friday.

Since we integrated this parenting set of ideas into our house, our mornings are exceptionally calm, cooperative and happy. There are no loud power struggles, no sibling rivalry and no sobbing. The partnership I have with all of my youngsters, when concentrating on making a happy, winning setting in every little thing we opt to produce as a family, is much more loving, solider and honestly together than ever in the past. Here’s to happy parenting!

Can I Do An Even Better Job Than Supernanny Does?

By Thomas Liotta

2 Positive Parenting Design Ideas to Include a +1 to My Personal Favorite Supernanny Jo Frost’s Naughty Mat for More Effective Parenting!

I adore Supernanny Jo Frost. Every mom or dad who has looked for even more effective parenting solutions has actually paid attention to Supernanny’s naughty mat and time-out methods for loud, rambunctious and hideous behavior.

Although Supernanny’s ideas work with younger children, and she was very ahead of her time with parenting options, what if there was a “+1” to her methods that would produce a more positive outcome overall? Exactly what if these exact same methods worked with older children, tweens and teens to produce cooperation, self-control and self-discipline in the family home?

It is regular for children to be loud, aggressive and obnoxious at times, and children would love to have an environment where they could be rough and play. They would also like to be accepted and adored for who they are. You have the capacity to find the correct environment for loud, pushy and rambunctious behavior so you can encourage the playful normal behavior of your child or teenager.

Keep reading to uncover positive parenting style strategies from my husband Thomas, that include a +1 to Supernanny Jo Frost’s naughty mat.

1. Set up the environment beforehand by asking your kid or young teen, “Where is the very best place to be loud, pushy and rambunctious, little Timmy?” They will provide you the right response, “At the park, Mom.” Or “In the backyard, Dad.” “Perfect, Timmy, so the next time you are combating with your siblings, running around, and being loud, where will you go?” “Outside, Mom and Dad.” Then, you could praise little Timmy, “Oh, look at you, you are so wise, Timmy. That’s just what I enjoy about you a lot. You constantly say the correct answer.”

2. Ask questions and quantify what they are doing. Right here are some questions you could ask to constantly be in an environment of stating yes (not ever no) and providing favorable messages to your kid or teenager by having your kids tell you what actions they are choosing for themselves.

1. Where is a good location for pushing, Timmy? 2. What are good things to push? 3. When is it alright to push someone? 4. Where is the most effective place for you to run around and yell? 5. Exactly what is great inside habits?

As soon as you ask your child or teen these basic questions and recognize that they are really brilliant you will become a strong believer that they will always understand the appropriate response. The next time they are rollicking the house, just before you warn, impose or reward any habits, simply ask them, “Where is the very best location for running?” When they state outside and go outside, you are directing your child’s habits with questions, adoringly, with favorable belief in them. You may be shocked when you see that they love pushing their brother on the swing at the park and every little thing truly isn’t so naughty.

It’s so simple!

The parenting strategies will help you produce a confident, happy and grateful child or teenager in any child. When you learn to lovingly guide your child’s behavior, as opposed to using outdated punishment techniques, that work short-term at best, you will be the hero to your child. Make sure to get our FREE gift to you. The first 2,000 will get it. Act now!