My Child Has No Self-Discipline, Responsibility or Focus…Except for Focus on Their Cells or iPads!

It’s just another hectic day in a common North American household at around 5 o’clock in the afternoon and Mom is walking in the door after a long day at work to see her two teens and pre-teenagers sitting around on the sofa watching a movie. There are dishes all over the available kitchen tables, empty chip bags on the living room table, and their school bags are all simply thrown at the front door. Mother is either used to it, in denial of it, or she will soon blow. In any case, this is not a situation that will have a delightful conclusion no matter what you opt to do for discipline. I mean seriously, I understand this wouldn’t happen in your residence, but if it did, you would have to put your foot down, right?

Below are 3 Positive Parenting Solutions You Can Use that Will Guarantee Your Children and Teenagers Self-Discipline, Responsibility and Focus.

1. Know the Reward for your child or teenager when they do a good job on their chores at home. Yes, it is your home with your rules and if you like exactly what is going on today with your child then keep doing what you’re doing. If you would prefer to see more positive outcomes with your child or teen, you will start to acknowledge and use exactly what is known as their fuel, and your ammo, their “why.” Their why exists to help your children be inspired to complete their jobs and find out necessary life skills. You can always make certain you have the appropriate motivator by listening to exactly what they ask you for and by taking note of which things are essential to them.

2. Pre-frame your expectations with your child or teenager, either the night before or in the morning. Have a 5 minute discussion with your child about what your contract is with them. Make certain they comprehend that when they do this, this and this, they then earn dinner, or they earn a great dinner, or they then earn a terrific dinner. Confirm this by asking them to duplicate back to you exactly what the arrangement is. Yes, you need to supply meals but you don’t need to supply butter on the veggies, or steak with their salad and bread, because, well, quite simply, that is definitely a benefit. Benefits are earned in 3 areas: bare minimum, typical and impressive. Outstanding work earns exceptional meals!!!

3. Make sure you have made the effort to teach them detailed the best ways to do every task you ask of your kchildren; instruct them over and over again till they finish the task to your standards. Do not presume your young child understands exactly what you suggest when you ask them to straighten their bedroom, empty the dishwashing machine or even put their own clothes in the clothes hamper.

4. Stick to your part of the arrangement by making them always earn the privileges in their life.

Adhere to these simple however efficient favorable parenting techniques and you will see a favorable result with your child or young teenager every time you have a job to be done. This works!

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