If your child or teenager does nothing at all when you are not around, but will help with nagging from you every 10 minutes, every day off, then join 97% of parents out there. Just because this is occurring does not mean it should be accepted or even endured, nevertheless, the parenting style you choose when you address the situation with your child or teenager will create the difference between an unfavorable event and a positive parenting experience.
Since you are looking at this, I will conclude that you have had some power struggles with your child or teenager over chores or school work. In this article is a circumstance, you get back from work and your youngster is playing a computer game rather than doing what he is supposed to accomplish. Then, instead of doing what the parent considers is actually most suitable for the child, the child is ridiculed and then punished, yelled at or, worse yet, ignored while Mom or Dad does all of the work.
Listed here are 3 Positive Parenting Techniques for motivating Your Child or Teenager to Motion.
1. Make the effort to teach your child the life skill you are expecting them to do.
That means that you yourself picks up the clothes off the floor, and then set them in the clothes basket while your child sees you. Next, put all of the things back on the floor as it was before, and then you watch your child pick every item off the floor and put it in the hamper. Repeat this process with every single task until your child completes the task exactly the way that you teach them.
These three basic steps are essential for you to do with every chore and every expectation you have laid out for them. Never assume they know how to do a job, even if it is as easy as putting all of their clothing in the laundry hamper.
2. Know the reward for your child or teenager.
Pay very close attention to the specific things your child or teenager asks you for. They might be easy items like enjoying a beloved TV program, playing at the park with a buddy, or having a friend come visit on the weekend, or they may be larger items that your child can earn over a lengthy period of time like a new bike, a computer or a cell phone. Develop an entire list of arsenal for your child to work towards earning. These are your child’s goals and their fuel to get active.
3. Set your child or teenager up for success by having a mutual agreement.
Sit down with your child or teenager and detail, “Little Timmy, I know that it is essential for you to have some outside time with Charlie after school. You could have 30 minutes, 60 minutes or 90 minutes outside depending upon what you pick to do. If you do one thing on the list you will earn 30 minutes, if you do two things, you will earn 60 minutes, and if you do everything on the list, you will earn yourself 90 minutes of outdoor time every day! So, tell me Timmy, what do you need to do to earn a full 90 minutes of outside time every day?” Then little Timmy will answer, “If I complete allof my things on my list before you get home after work, I will earn 90 minutes of outside time, Mom.”
As soon as you know that your child knows how to do what you expect of him or her and you figure out the reward for your child or teenager, you remove all whining from the equation as long as you stick to your guns on your agreement. These effective positive parenting solutions are just the beginning of your new journey with your child or teenager!